i love it when a plan comes together....

Jewel has become a fantastic backseat driver.  She even asked, "Mom, are your lights on?" It was so distracting that I had a hard time driving because she kept yelling, "Watch out, Mom! Turn here!  Slow down, there's a red light."  hahaha funny!!  Then, we got home and Trevor played the song on the Spiderman clock over and over.  He said, "I have to play it while we hang the posters."  (We were hanging spiderman posters.)  Things are settling in, I am not spending as much time with the kids as I want, but I have a few plans in the works to make that better.  In the meantime, I am very happy that all of the mental work that Trent and I put into this has begun to payoff.  We are finding a very pleasant place just between being exes and friends that is allowing me to let go of the emotional struggle of the relationship without being an enemy.  We spend time together with the kids and the hurt is tolerable, and we are remembering to continue helping and encouraging each other.  The peace is really helping to offset the misery and I have felt pretty good for a few weeks now.  It seems that both of us are adjusting well and that is helping the kids to adjust.  I am sure that as long as the kids are doing good and nothing that we do affects them too much I will continue to feel better and happier about our progress.